We all come from the wombs of our mothers. We’re born as babies, innocent, and fragile, and our parents must raise us. To teach us right from wrong. To show us what it is to be a decent human being. Everyone was once sweet and gentle, so how did some of us, now teenagers, slip among the cracks of a very glaring line between kind and mean?
Each one of us has an experience in which we wish the turnout had been different. This particular experience is one that has impacted us, is one that has stuck with us, is one that has ingrained its very roots in our souls.
There are two types of these specific encounters: positive and negative. Throughout each day, we’ll have a collective of good or bad incidents stringed together.
Sometimes, we tend to overlook certain aspects of positive interactions that we have on a daily basis. For example, when someone holds a door open for you or picks up something you’ve dropped, these acts of kindness aren’t meaningless; in fact, they are meaningful.
Why is that so? Because it gently reminds me, you, and everyone else that within us lives something real– something pure.
This pureness is a part of what it is to be human. It’s what we were brought into the world with. To be pure, will always be our instinct, whether it’s deep down inside, or wavering on our surface. But to act on it– that’s completely up to us.
My dad always told me, “Si no hay sangre, no hay dolor.”
Which translates to If there’s no blood, there’s no pain. I don’t believe this to be the truth, though.
Although we wouldn’t want to face a negative encounter, we will eventually. This inevitability will put us in a position that has made us desire a different outcome, a change in a person, or whatever it may be that has caused us harm, either physically or mentally.
Most of us have dealt with harsh words thrown our way, whether it’d be intentional or not. You can never know when the words that leave your mouth will affect whoever hears them, so it’s always a paramount step to think before you speak.
The word you used to describe the kid up front followed by judgemental eyes, and quiet laughter, aren’t discarded acts. These actions, that word, will reign daggers upon that kid.
When it comes to the physicality of harmful behavior, there isn’t going back after the actions have been made. This type of occurrence will linger in one’s consciousness for whatever length of time, depending on how strongly it has affected said person.
To deal with these types of situations, it’s always best to understand each other. If you think reasonably, you can work it out, no matter how difficult the issue presents itself. Efforts from each person involved in the problem will have solved it with more efficiency and grace. There’s never a need to get “your get back,” because no such thing exists.
We need to remember from time to time that we make mistakes. Each person in their lifetime has at least once been someone’s bad experience, as well as someone’s good experience. It’s up to us to decide if we want to learn from our wrongs or if we want to grow and mature from them.
Every encounter that we face creates boundless possibilities that we can’t control. Simply the only thing we can govern is ourselves. Therefore, we have to create a balance between our unknown and intentional faults. This requires presence of mind.
To be present, requires one to live in the moment, but alongside being aware of what’s going on around you, as well as within you. Being conscious of what you say or do goes a long way, it forever will.
If you live among the spaces of perennial acknowledgment brought into fruition, you won’t cross the glaring line.
